A perfect wedding day is what every bride aspires to. Even if a lot of wedding-related details, including the dress, location, and catering, can be carefully planned, there is no way to ensure that everything will go well. One woman believed she had the ideal strategy to guarantee a flawless wedding day, but she quickly discovered that not everyone agreed with her.The soon-to-be bride posted on the well-known Reddit thread “Am I The Asshole” (AITAH) to ask for advise. She wanted to know if her expectations of her wedding guests were unrealistic. The post immediately became well-known and sparked a contentious discussion. The bride clarified that after sending a set of guidelines to their wedding guests, she and her fiancé received a wave in return.
She clarified before delving into the specifics that her fiancé had equally contributed to and supported these regulations, so they weren’t just her ideas. The couple’s “unplugged ceremony” was one of the main guidelines they followed. Unless there was a serious emergency, guests were not permitted to use their phones during the ceremony or the supper that followed. The majority of attendees were aware that phones were not allowed during the ceremony, but many thought the dinnertime ban was overly stringent. Concerns about having to check on their kids were voiced by some parents who intended to leave them at home. The bride was adamant, though, saying that she would have to make an exception for everyone if she did so for just one.
The pair made it mandatory for everyone attending to dress in black, with men wearing tuxedos and women wearing gowns. Several guests were offended by this rule, especially her aunt, who had just started dressing colorfully again after losing her husband. The idea of wearing black once more depressed her aunt, but the bride refused to change her mind. She was also denied an exception for her future sister-in-law, who has body dysmorphia and always wears pants for comfort. The bridesmaids were told to maintain their weight, whether it meant eating more or less, and the pair had also ordered their dresses months in advance. The bride’s mother became irate over this specific regulation and told her daughter that the wedding was “doomed.”
But during the ceremony, the bride asked that the flower girl be left at a hotel with a babysitter. Since the wedding location was four hours away by car, the maid of honor declined and instead intended to leave her daughter with her mother. The bride lost her flower girl as a result of this choice.The bride tried to defend her restrictions, but many Reddit users thought she and her fiancé were totally out of control and called them the “assholes” involved. Commenters noted that although a couple is free to arrange their wedding as they see fit, guests are free to turn down invitations and are not required to comply with irrational requests. Ultimately, there was broad agreement on Reddit: the couple’s rigorous and